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dealing with anxiety, the dolce far niente way

 how to deal with anxiety, tired, how to feel less tired, taking breaks
Do you know that feeling in the weekend when you try to relax only you are sure you forgot to do something? I didn't know what it was, till some time ago. It is a very strange nagging sensation. Especially for me.
Normally I am a laid back person. But don't call me lazy. Do not imagine a sloth. Imagine a sleeping lion (What do you think about ready to go defense trick?)
My husband is not one for laziness. He has a busy job, and even on the weekend he always has some project going on.
Seeing how much he manage to do is very motivating for me. Contagious even.

But following his example I hit a wall.  The initial feeling of being busy feels great; buzz, buzz! Till the buzzing in your head drives you crazy.
Ideas stopped flowing, I was exhausted, I didn't enjoy the work I was doing, and got to know that strange feeling. What did I forget? What was it?
Well you forgot to do everything that is still on that never ending list. You can't stop till you catch up.


Imagine you are driving a car, on a busy road. You are following your GPS, but the destination is still very far away. You are listening to your favorite station. And the car is full of people, let's say toddlers, they keep asking you questions. They want your attention. I love road trips, am always up for one. But imagine you are driving like that through this beautiful landscape. And are only concerned about arriving at that faraway destination.

Sometimes you just have to hit the brakes hard and get out. Find a nice spot for a picnic. Explore a town on the way, take a back road. Hop on a bike, and take a leisurely ride. Lock your bike, and walk to the beach,. Jump in the water.
That is what you have to do in your daily life too. Hit those brakes.  Hard! Because being busy is not only contagious but also addictive.
For me, once I remind myself to take time, go slow, everything falls into place.
I feel happy again, creativity flows, and at the end of the day, I have that great feeling of accomplishment.
 how to deal with anxiety, tired, how to feel less tired, taking breaks
taking breaks

To take breaks, you can read a book, go on a walk, stop working in the evening, meditate daily, tkeep a journal, look at art, unplug, enjoy long showers, or just stare out of the window.
Only the moment before and after hitting the brakes is hard, you need to come down from the rush.

If you have a hard time unplugging there are some great apps that help you make that transition.


-Headspace Will help you to take five minutes a day to meditate. I tried lots of apps for meditation, and this one is my favorite. Easy, clear, inspiring.

-Day One A simple way to journal.

-Brain wave Sounds and tunes that help with relaxation, concentration and falling asleep.


-Breathing zone A doctor recommended breathing excursive that can reduce stress and anxiety and improve your mood.


-Google Inbox. Reduce e-mail overload. Win back some time for yourself.

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monday vibes: awesome reads!

Best articles

-We have all been there: How to deal with blushing in public.

 -The story of Billy, the 12,900 pound virgin. If you love animals this article gives food for thought.


-How to care for your cast iron pan. Great precise instructions.


-Where to score the perfect pair of vintage denim

-The Collective quarterly visited 'The last best place'. The results: a great magazine and lots of gorgeous lust worthy objects. Check them out.

-An interview with the the fittest couple on earth ( they must be aliens, right?)

And I just published the Prologue of my own book HOLLYWOODDAZE online, read it here



My last post was selected in the IFB roundup, there are many great blogpost in the list, check them out below.

lalam0115

Real Style Essentials

What do you really need for good style? The answer could be, "More clothes." But we know better. It's about knowing what you wear. It's about finding your self, not your clothing self, but your real self. It's about taking care of yourself. It's about feeling good in your own skin. This week's roundup is about the real essentials you need to be stylish. Whether it be your skin, what's under that skin, or what you're wearing to cover it.

Links à la Mode: January 15th

SPONSOR: shop bop Tory Totes, Skarlett blue, Lotta Stensson, Del Mar, IKII, Loyd Ford, English Factory, Valia Gabriel, Hender Scheme, The Laundry Room & Minimale Animale

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The weekly: 6 items/7 looks

Isabelle Marant leather jacket, Current elliott the fling Ragdoll La t-shirt

Do you have a signature style? I don't. Not that I am aware of. I know that I don't like certain things; big prints, too many accessories, culottes (!).  But there is so much more that I do like. I admire people that can be consistent in their style, and wear the same thing every time and look great doing it. But I can't.
I am just too many things, too complicated, my interests are too vast to just choose one thing. 
One day casual is Vans and boyfriend jeans and the day after I just want to be Audrey Hepburn. 
I sometimes worry about my inconstancy. But freedom is the most important value of all. And that's it. How lucky are we to be free to be whoever we want. Even if there is no signature, it can all be me.

How to dress like Audrey Hebburn wear her salvatore ferragamo varina flats

Capsule wardrobe

Capsule wardrobe Elkin dress

Capsule wardrobe Isabel Marant coat



The weekly six:





Sweater Leon and Harper, Dress Elkin, Grey button down similar, Tee Ragdoll La, Jeans Current Elliott, Cords COH similar at J.Crew

The extras: Heels Miu Miu, Sneakers Vans, Leather Jacket Isabel Marant, Coat Isabel Marant for H&M, Flats Varina Ferragamo

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Raid the closet: Alison Lockhart in The Affair

Summer wear Alison The Affair style How to wear Summer dresses
Ruth Wilson was very surprised to win the Golden Globes for best actress in a Tv drama for The Affair. But she is so captivating in it, she blows everyone else away, even surrounded by the great Jimmy McNulty & Pacey Witter. 

Sometimes you watch a show or movie, or read a book and just shake your head, because the maker doesn't seem to understand girls and women. The women is a projection. 
The Affair delves behind the projection, to give the femme fatale heart, soul, a love for Dolly Parton and a great sense of style.

This is a new feature: raid the closet. A  mini capsule that captures the singular style of kick ass women.

After losing her job Alison works at a diner. There is a lot of talk about her limited closet. There is this scene where her husband gives her money, that they don't have to buy herself a new dress.
But you don't need much, to get that girly, boho/beach/bike babe look.

Summer wear Alison The Affair style Ruth Wilson style, How to wear Summer dresses

Alison The Affair  Summer wear

Alison Lockhart The Affair style Ruth Wilson style, How to wear Summer dresses

Dress 1 Ganni,  Dress 2 Madewell,  Dress 3 Choies,  Dress 4,  Dress 5






Weekly essentials/ 6 pieces/ 7day to night looks

Winter outfits, capsule wardrobe, black outfits, how to wear leather pants, winter fashion, how to wear ankle boots

I am learning to travel light. I spend the first week in January in Italy, and managed to get by with a small carry on. I wore the cashmere sweater I stole from my husband a lot, and the cheapest thrill in my closet, some faux leather pants from H&M, got a lot of play too.
Here are the 7 looks of this week:


Winter outfits, capsule wardrobe, black outfits, how to wear leather pants, winter fashion, how to wear ankle boots
I love black and brown together. And am so happy with my new Sezane ankle boots. You can get Sezane at Madewell now, but check out their site too, they bring out one collection a month and it is French perfection. (and on this this day let's all say it Vive La France!)

Winter outfits, capsule wardrobe, black outfits, how to wear leather pants, winter fashion, how to wear ankle boots

Winter outfits, capsule wardrobe, black outfits, how to wear leather pants, winter fashion, how to wear ankle boots

Winter outfits, capsule wardrobe, black outfits, how to wear leather pants, winter fashion, how to wear ankle boots
 For dinner one night I added a simple black scarf. It's an easier look to pull off, than going full on cape.
Winter outfits, capsule wardrobe, black outfits, how to wear leather pants, winter fashion, how to wear ankle boots

Winter outfits, capsule wardrobe, black outfits, how to wear leather pants, winter fashion, how to wear ankle boots

Another evening look, I tend to wear my dresses a lot like this; heels and jacket for night, sweater, tights and booties for day. 

Hope you are staying safe, warm and happy!


Winter outfits, capsule wardrobe, black outfits, how to wear leather pants, winter fashion, how to wear ankle boots

The pieces:
The Kooples white blouse
The Kooples grey dress
Current Elliott The fling

Worn with:



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